I have a bit of a delicate situation, and I’m hoping that the wise denizens of the Internet can give me some advice as Mr Rogers never covered this. But first, some backstory.
Raise your hands if you currently live (or have ever lived) in an apartment. If so, you know how complicated navigating your relationships with your neighbors can be. You have to pick and choose your battles. For instance, when a neighbor asked me and a friend to stop laughing so loudly at 5:00pm, I tried to understand that maybe she had a deadline. Did I think I should be able to be in my apartment and laughing at that hour? Yes. But still, I compromised because we all have to live in this space.
Well, now I’m the one with the problem. You see, I hate the smell of pot smoke. Even the smallest amount gives me a headache, and any sort of prolonged exposure makes me queasy. Imagine my delight when I discovered that my new downstairs neighbor likes to smoke out—every day.
Smoke rises. So, if my windows are open, and she’s smoking, it’s coming into my apartment. I thought I could fix it. I don’t have air conditioning, and even though it is SoCal in the summer, I closed all my windows in hopes of easing the problem. Alas, we seem to share heating vents, and all that did was trap me inside my apartment with the smoke.
I’m sure she’s thinking that she has the right to do whatever she wants in her own apartment—that it’s not hurting anybody else. I’d agree with her if the smoke actually stayed there. Sadly, it does not.
I don’t know what to do. I can’t tell her to take the weed on the road. This isn’t like asking someone to keep it down because I don’t know that there is a way for her to keep it in. Moving seems like the likeliest option, but part of me resents having to take on the financials of a move just to be able to breathe freely, and I can’t afford a house, so moving won’t guarantee that I’ll land in a smoke-free environment.
So, here I sit hoping that her smoking hours will coincide with my plans to be out of the apartment. Dear Internet, what would you do?