Ah, proximity—you seem to be the key to all things dating… which is tricky given how much I like to spend time alone.
This week’s Breaking In featured the theory that “love is a numbers game” and that the way for one of the leads to finally get the girl of his dreams is to spend as much time with her as possible. He actually had the day broken down into “quality time spent” components, and spending the day at work with this girl meant he would be “winning” (not in the Charlie Sheen sense, but with actual positive outcome in the mix) the battle for her heart (which he might want along with her other parts).
Then much to my surprise, when I finally got through my email@example.com email, I saw that Kelly at HLN had sent over another clip from Dr. Drew’s show. Now, the piece was supposed to explore what it is that men really want from women. This scared me because I assumed it was somehow pornographic. Kidding. Kidding. Not really, but let’s pretend.
Naturally, the conversation turned toward the different approaches of the sexes in meeting a potential partner. The panel and Dr. Drew came to the conclusion that Cam did in Breaking In (only they backed-it up with actual data) that proximity plays an enormous role in finding a potential romance.
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I worked many, many, many years in a largely-male environment. Love did not blossom for me. No seeds were even planted. Clearly, I need to work at a place where there is a plethora of options before I can give this theory a try. But otherwise his advice did leave me a little bit stuck. He said, “Go put yourself in environments where you’re about to be near people that share the kind of interests that you do.” That idea is all well and good, but look at my interests: ballet, theater, museums, movies, reading and watching TV. They either involve being alone, not interacting or involve places not exactly teeming with single, straight men who have also arrived alone. Do you have any idea how difficult it is for a shy, retiring type to pry a guy away from his mother at the ballet? It’s not going to happen.
Also, sitting next to the guy sitting alone in an empty movie theater is creepy. Not that I’ve tried that. Yet.